The Bachelor’s Brad Womack admitted he didn’t deal well with death, but that didn’t keep him from lying on Shawntel Nixon’s embalming table on Monday night’s hometown visit. But when Brad learned that Shawntel’s family wanted her to stay in Chico and take over her dad’s funeral business, the 25-year-old had her wedding dreams dashed. Now thehollywoodknow talks to Shawntel to find out if she is still heartbroken and how much she thinks her chosen career had to do with Brad’s decision.
Do you think the conversation you had with your parents about leaving the family business was something that should have happened without Brad there? Do you think it affected his decision at the end of the day?
Shawntel Nixon: The question had never come up with my family about me leaving Chico. I always thought I would be staying in Chico and taking over the business. It has never been brought up. I think they were a little surprised. When I went on the show, I had no idea who The Bachelor was. When I learned Brad lived in Austin and he wants his wife to be there, I thought, “Okay, I am falling in love with him. I am willing to move.” I think it was a shock to my family that I came home and said, “I am falling in love and this might change things.”
How big a role did your family’s plans play in Brad’s decision?
Shawntel Nixon: I think on Brad’s part it had a big role. I think he really saw that my dad was having a hard time. He did give his blessing but, I think, Brad felt uncomfortable. “Shawntel’s family is not really in support of this.”
Do you regret your decision to take Brad to the funeral home?
Shawntel Nixon: I don’t regret it at all. I don’t usually take a guy on a first date to a funeral home, but in this situation, we had so many weeks to fall in love, and I was falling in love with Brad. I said, “This is it.” It was the final test to see if he could handle it, so I don’t regret it.
It sounds as if you are ready to get married, but you are having trouble finding the right guy. Is it hard to find good guys in Chico? Or do you think it is your profession that keeps men from getting serious about you?
Shawntel Nixon: I think it is a little of both. I think my profession has challenged my love life a lot. When I go on a date with a guy and we start talking about what we do, when I say I work in the funeral industry, it is like [men take] a step back. ”Wow. That is different.” Growing up in Chico, I know a lot of the guys my age because we all went to school together, played sports together and went to church together. I probably wouldn’t date them because I grew up with them and it is like family. Also, being a funeral director has challenged that as well.
Have you been able to move on, or are you still heartbroken?
Shawntel Nixon: It has been a little while, so I am okay. I compare it to someone who has lost a loved one, because you go through the same stages you do with a death. With me losing Brad, I allowed myself to get angry. A part of me wondered, “Could I have done something different?” I was almost in denial. I allowed myself to go through the different stages of grief in a healthy way. I am not in love with him anymore. Like I said in the limo, I wish Brad happiness. All I want for him is to be happy. I think he got lucky with the girls he had to choose from because he had some great girls there.
Was Brad the type of guy you usually date, or was he a complete new type for you?
Shawntel Nixon: Brad was a completely new type for me. I don’t have a lot of men to compare him to. In my past relationships, I have had two guys that I was in love with. I have dated, but as far as calling them my boyfriend and being in love, I had one in high school and then two years ago, I had a boyfriend and it was a very unhealthy relationship. He was someone I tried to rescue and I was being drowned in the process. So when I met Brad, he was someone fresh and new, and a Southern gentleman. I was, “Whoa, I didn’t even know this existed.” I hadn’t felt this kind of love before. It could be because I haven’t had this amazing man in my life yet that I have fallen in love with, so it was all refreshing and new to me and I loved it.
You have had interaction with the women who are left. Do you see them with him?
Shawntel Nixon: My personal opinion is he is in love with Emily and I think he has been for a while. I ignored that when I was with him. There was a rose ceremony where we were all sitting down and he asked Emily to step outside with a beautiful basket of wine and cheese. It was hurtful. …Emily is everything he wants. She has a child. I think he wants to be a father to her child. He wants to get married and have more kids. Not that I don’t want that. I want to get married and have kids. Emily already has what he wants.
The Bachelor airs Monday nights at 8 p.m. on ABC.